The loss of a loved one is a difficult experience, and how you choose to dispose of the ashes can have a profound impact on your grieving process.
In Quebec, ashes have no legal recognition, which gives families great freedom in their decisions. Whether in the cemetery, in a columbarium, or even scattered around a significant location, each option carries a unique meaning.
It's important to think about the implications of each choice. In this article, I will explore the various options available to us for honoring the memory of our loved ones and how these decisions can influence our healing journey.
The laws in force in Quebec for the disposal of human ashes
In Quebec, the disposal of human ashes is governed by the Funeral Activities Act.
This law states that the scattering of ashes must not be done in places that may represent a nuisance or in a manner lacking dignity for the deceased. It is crucial to know these regulations to avoid unexpected events.
What are the authorized places for the dispersion of ashes?
- Memorial garden
Advantages:
Memorial gardens are often located in cemeteries, offering a respectful setting. They are accessible to families and provide a place for meditation.
Disadvantages:
Availability may vary by municipality.
- Nature
Advantages:
Scattering ashes in nature reinforces the link with the environment. The forests, the sea or the mountains offer soothing panoramas.
Disadvantages:
Make sure that the area is large, accessible and away from homes.
Columbarium
Advantages:
Columbariums allow for the secure and permanent preservation of ashes. They are often integrated into peaceful landscapes.
Disadvantages:
Maintenance costs may be associated, and location may be limited.
- Ecoforest cemetery
Advantages:
Ecoforest cemeteries, such as the Second Life Forest, offer an ecological option that respects the environment. They promote the regeneration of ecosystems.
Disadvantages:
They may not be as well known as traditional cemeteries, limiting access for some.
Where is it forbidden (or restricted) to scatter ashes in Quebec?
In Quebec, the management of human ashes is supervised by the Funeral Activities Act.
Here is what section 71 of this law provides for in terms of the disposal of human ashes:
No person may scatter human ashes where they could be a nuisance or in a manner that does not respect the dignity of the deceased person.
Although the law became more flexible in 2016, it imposes strict conditions to ensure respect for the dignity of the deceased and public health.
Here are some conservative interpretations of this law in order to ensure a regulatory disposition of the ashes of your deceased.
1. Public places and urban parks
It is strictly forbidden to scatter ashes on public roads (streets, sidewalks), in municipal parks or in public squares.
- Why?
To prevent the ashes from being trampled on by passers-by or moved by urban maintenance, which would violate the legal obligation to treat the ashes with “respect and dignity.”
2. Rivers
The law prohibits the dispersion of ashes in rivers and streams to preserve water quality. This may limit acts of tribute to those who would like to connect with aquatic nature.
3. Private properties owned by third parties
You may not scatter ashes on private land without the express written consent ofU owner.
- The risk
If the land is sold later, the ashes could be excavated or the site transformed, which poses an ethical and legal problem.
- Note on personal gardens
Although you are a homeowner, the law requires that the dispersion should not be done in such a way that the ashes are mixed with the ground mass. They must remain identifiable or be placed in a location that allows for their long-term protection of the dignity of the deceased.
The situation depends first of all on the choice of the deceased.
The choice of the deceased directly influences the disposition of the ashes. Depending on the wishes of the deceased, several options exist, each with its advantages and disadvantages.
Burial in the cemetery
Advantages:
- Place of meditation for family and loved ones.
- Tradition respected, offering a certain peace of mind.
Disadvantages:
- High costs associated with the purchase of a plot and funeral expenses.
- Less flexibility as to where to visit.
Ashes rest in a columbarium
Advantages:
- Dedicated space for storing ashes in an elegant way.
- Accessible, often in urban areas to facilitate visits.
Disadvantages:
- Rates are sometimes high, depending on the location and the duration of the rental.
- May seem impersonal to some.
Dispersion of ash in nature
Advantages:
- Return to nature, a symbol of freedom and serenity.
- Environmentally friendly option.
Disadvantages:
- Legal restrictions on places of dispersion, in particular prohibiting waterways and public roads.
- Some families may feel a lack of concrete place to remember.
Rooting ashes in an ecoforest cemetery
Advantages:
- Respect for the environment through ecological practices.
- Allows you to contribute to reforestation while honoring the deceased.
Disadvantages:
- Visiting options may be limited compared to a conventional cemetery.
- Locations may vary depending on availability.
Ecological options at the Second Life Forest
The Forest of the Second Life offers unique ecological options. Ashes can be integrated into planted trees, thus creating a living space in memory of the deceased. This approach also promotes biodiversity and contributes to forest maintenance. Families can choose a tree species specific, making each choice even more personal and meaningful.
It is essential that each family evaluates these options and takes into account the wishes of the deceased as well as the legal and emotional implications of each decision.
Destination of the ashes
Choosing the destination for the ashes of a deceased person is a delicate and personal step. Each option offers a unique way of paying tribute while respecting the wishes of the deceased. Whether through burial in the cemetery or dispersal in a dear place, these decisions can bring some relief in the grieving process.
It's essential to take time to think about the emotional and legal implications of each choice. By integrating the ashes into a tree or by scattering them in a garden of remembrance, we create a living and lasting link with the memory of the loved one. Finally, each family must find the solution that most resonates with their history and values.
